Mistaken Interest........

Ladies, lets stop doing something. Lets stop mistaking sex for 'that thing' as Wale would so eloquently put it.

Single men and women view sex in entirely different ways. Single men view sex as a way to get off, bust a nut, and to feel good. Single women view sex as an emotional, physical connection. A way to possibly show a man that she's interested and even willing to give a part of herself just to show him.

If men and women understood each other a little better things would be a lot easier. We look at Cosmos "100 ways to capture his heart" (which more than likely includes various sex positions you can try out on him) and think that if we do some of the things on that list we'll win him over.

WRONG.

Men are simple creatures. One of the sure fire ways to win a mans heart is to connect with him on a level that's deeper than sex- mentally. You ever notice that when you first meet a guy everything is great but after about a week or two things end up leading to sex? It's because that man has become bored with the mental aspect of the relationship and is now moving on towards the sexual aspect.

A mans mind prefers to be stimulated on multiple different levels. Many women fail to realize this and think that having sex with a man will keep him around. Especially if she's 'throwing it back' right and doing all of the freaky nasty shit he likes.

Think about it: If you're looking for a husband or someone you can start a relationship with, don't you think that being able to connect with that person on a deeper level is necessary? I mean, it would get boring after awhile if there's no mental connection. Yes, you could fuck his brains out but then what?

This theory goes back to the saying that 'love becomes deeper than looks'. A man or woman can be one of the sexiest people on the planet and can dress his or her ass off but outer appearance alone wouldn't be enough to keep someone in a relationship.

Read books, educate yourself, and learn to communicate on a variety of different levels. And if a man is still only worried about getting into your pants then you know he's not truly interested in you but more interested in seeing what your pussy's like (Period).

Move on, and find someone more interested in you and not whats in between your legs.